Skip to main content

Little girls and Little boys.....

I often wonder about the path my life has taken.  God has blessed me with many sons, so the Rhodes name is not in danger, but really, not one daughter among this brood, sheesh-- what is up with that?? People always ask me, do you wish you had girls? After giving birth to three boys, why adopt another boy, why not a girl?  Interesting question. I guess I just figured God knew best.  If I was supposed to have girls he would have given them to me.

They are really different creatures.  I don't get to spend a ton of time around little girls, but they are special.  I love the sweet knowing smiles, almost like they have little grown woman brains behind those little girl eyes. I love their soft hair, and love of all things shiny.  If I am honest with myself, I must admit, God knows me better than I know myself.  I have the temperament to be a good auntie to girls.  You know, the fun auntie that does crafts, and nails, and plays make up, and does facials.  I love give advice, and coach young women through character challenges.

But: When the whining begins, and the I am a grown woman in a little girl body back talk starts,.....I can say-- oh my, look at the time, love you! Later! 

My husband is fond of pointing out the irony of my weird relationship to the girls in my life.  I love them so much.  I adore the daughters of my friends.  I can also be highly critical.  I have to watch that, as a future mother-in-law.  I can see mushy character, and low self esteem a mile away.  My sons know that I will hold their chicks to a high standard of character.  That doesn't mean perfection.  That doesn't mean virginal innocence.  It means a good heart.  Respect for herself.  Kindness to others.  The desire to be the woman she is meant to be and not selling herself short.  Is that critical? Perhaps. I know better than anyone, that sometimes we have to go through some bumps and life lessons to grow into the women we are meant to be.  I just hope that the young women in our lives will be open hearted and open to wisdom, lol.  I can hope, right! Believe me ladies, I am praying for you already. The future Rhodes wives have been in my prayers for years and years....so I know I am not in this alone, I have the Big Guy on my side.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

To get something good, first we have to tolerate chaos.

I am swirling in chaos! Our little remodeling projects, ie: painting the boys rooms, have resulted in a whirl of mess, mess, mess. My husband has been diligently painting walls, repurposing furniture, meanwhile all of the clothing, shoes, toys, junk, furniture we are no longer using, etc... is lining the hallways and rooms of my house! We have tried to engage the boys in this project, but it has somehow eluded them that they have any responsibility for putting the house back together, so it it a painful exercise of command and whine. Today, we must put it back, we cannot start the week in madness. So my day, is going to be interesting. They need to help, a lot. I need to figure out how to motivate them to help, without them feeling like they are being tortured. Wish me luck, at 10:30, video games, and NFL TV go off, and cleaning commences. I'd better have another cup of coffee, and pray for the next half hour, I'm gonna need it.
Post a Comment
Read more

I would LOVE a cleaning fairy!

Every woman has things in her life she is willing to pay for, and things she feels like she can and should do herself. My list is generally a little different than most women I think. My sister would tell you it is because I think I can do things better than other people, hee , hee ... she thinks I am a bit on the controlling side. I cut my own hair, do my own hair color, do my own facials, make jewelry, that sort of thing. I will admit, it is a rare occasion that I pay hundreds of dollars for a color and cut, and walk out feeling amazing. I am almost always disappointed in the result. I get a manicure & pedicure, and always regret the color choice- or see smudges. It just makes me mad to pay a lot of money for mediocre results. (I can get mediocre results myself!) One thing I definitely am willing to pay for, that I easily admit I am the worst at, is CLEANING MY HOUSE!! I really hate it. I love the calm and peace that comes with the clean, well organized home. I thri...
Post a Comment
Read more

New season of renewal & refinement

I am a girl with strong faith.  Strong, blind, childlike faith.  My atheist friends are bewildered by it.  They cannot understand how such a smart woman would believe such "nonsense".  I have no explanation other than, I just do. I preface this post with that statement because, you won't find me quoting scripture here.  Though I would if I were more confident in my ability to do so competently.  I do not have that confidence, never have.  I am a believer.  My belief has been nurtured by life experience, by answered prayers, by constant evidence that God cares about me.  I see his hand in big things and small. I look to him for guidance and help in all things.  I am not a Biblical scholar.  I have always been somewhat insecure about that.  I am bolstered up by the words of a Godly woman much wiser than I who assures me that "I am living my walk out loud".  My faith is not in my knowledge of the scripture, but in the...
Post a Comment
Read more