Did you ever notice how if you take one family member out of the equation, the whole household vibe is different? My household is typically wild, and very noisy. Dogs running about, children playing, phones ringing, you get the picture. I try to zen out, but it is a serious challenge most days. It is so crazy most days, that the mere mention to my husband that I might give up my evening glass of wine because I am worried about the calories, brought on an unpredicted, "hmm, honey, I don't think that is a good idea, I mean, you really need to chill a little at the end of the day." Crazy, right? Well, my 10 year old son has been gone for the past few days. He is vacationing in Palm Springs with his friends family. It is strangely sedate around here. The fighting is at a minimum. Brothers are hanging out together, walking the dogs, playing games, and weirdly, there isn't a whole lot of yelling. I am actually able to concentrate on writing a bit, which is unheard of given that my computer is plop in the middle of chaos central. Now don't get me wrong, I miss my baby, but it is clear that he is an instigator of much of the craziness in this house. We'll have to work on that when he gets back.
I enter this new week a little tired, but smiling. Why? No drama this weekend. We had sunshine, and sports, and cuddle time--- less the drama. Most families don't experience the intense level of emotions that the Rhodes clan does. Sure, they have the hectic life of families, perhaps some fighting, the normal mess--- perhaps a little teen hormone induced drama....but we have drama of a different kind in our house. The kind of drama caused by a brain that is shooting off crazy chemicals induced by years of trauma. When our son Victor is home, the whole world is a great big land mine. Saying the wrong thing, calling him out on behavior, or even suggesting that he not eat a 4th serving of ice cream can cause the the peace to recede, and for chaos to ensue. He is now in a boarding school for kids with emotional issues. As sad as it is that our family isn't all together--- I must admit that the peace in our household is a welcome blessing. We are learning more and more
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