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Because you love him, and he loves you....

I am thinking about reading, or re-reading a few books. The general topic area of these books, is nurturing a healthy marriage. It is easy to get into the habit of taking care of the kids, being busy, tag teaming kid commitments, and becoming passing ships. It is easy to forget that the kids came in to your lives (marriage), not the other way around. Men and women are so different. We show affection differently, nurture one another differently, and interpret our partners words through our own filters. We may think we are bending over backwards to take care of everyone (therefore showing our husbands love), and they may feel neglected and unloved at the same time. Small gestures of consideration, or words of respect may mean more to our husbands than 12 loads of washed laundry, and a weeks worth of kiddie chauffeur service. A few books that cover this topic are...

Wife after God's own Heart by Elizabeth George
The 5 love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Husband Project by Kathi Lipp ( haven't read this one yet myself, but it looks like a good one!)

It is so easy to get caught up, distracted, tired, and peeved. I don't want to be peeved and exhausted, do you? I want to do my part to make my husband feel loved and appreciated. The best place to start is with me. If you are in a similar place, and read a good book, hear a good speaker, or anything that helps you stay on track, please pass it on. Much love!

The Husband Project , description

Keeping a marriage healthy is all about the details—the daily actions and interactions in which husbands and wives lift each other up and offer support, encouragement, and love. In The Husband Project women will discover fun and creative ways to bring back that lovin’ feeling and remind their husbands—and themselves—why they married in the first place.

Using the sense of humor that draws thousands of women a year to hear her speak, Kathi Lipp shows wives through simple daily action plans how they can bring the fun back into their relationship even amidst their busy schedules.


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