My family situation is interesting. I have one son in High School, one son in Middle School, one son in Elementary School, and one pre-schooler (a son, as well). I am doing something with my youngest, that I never did with the older ones, "Mommy & Me". Most of you know it is a pre-school setting, but parent inter-active. We have free play, craft time, circle time, a regular routine, it's fun....most days. Today however, it was crazy town!! We have a few new kids in the class, and 3 & 4 year old tempers were rocking the house. Complacent mothers were sitting pleading with their kids, to stop beating up other kids, stop grabbing toys from others, to STOP SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF THEIR LUNGS. Some moms were just sitting, chatting with their girlfriends, while an exasperated teacher, tried to control their unruly kids. Maybe it is just because I am 43, and the mother of a preschooler. (all the wisdom that comes with age, and all that), but I was very close to rounding up those self absorbed chit chatting mothers, and giving them a serious Call Out. I didn't though. I took deep breaths. I focused on Nick, and remembered that while they have a lot to learn, they will learn at their own pace. I am far from perfect and it has taken me years to learn when to step in & when to let things go with my boys. So! I'll do the old smile, and model good behavior method of teaching! (+ take two Excedrin and pick up a bottle of wine on the way home)
I enter this new week a little tired, but smiling. Why? No drama this weekend. We had sunshine, and sports, and cuddle time--- less the drama. Most families don't experience the intense level of emotions that the Rhodes clan does. Sure, they have the hectic life of families, perhaps some fighting, the normal mess--- perhaps a little teen hormone induced drama....but we have drama of a different kind in our house. The kind of drama caused by a brain that is shooting off crazy chemicals induced by years of trauma. When our son Victor is home, the whole world is a great big land mine. Saying the wrong thing, calling him out on behavior, or even suggesting that he not eat a 4th serving of ice cream can cause the the peace to recede, and for chaos to ensue. He is now in a boarding school for kids with emotional issues. As sad as it is that our family isn't all together--- I must admit that the peace in our household is a welcome blessing. We are learning more and more
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