Women are complimentary creatures. We notice things about other people. Most women are quick to compliment another woman's outfit, or her haircut, or lip color. It is funny how we see these details that are virtually invisible to most men. Sure they notice if a woman looks nice, or if she has on a flattering outfit, but they rarely notice the small stuff. While women are quick to compliment someone else, they are also are the first ones to criticize themselves. To let their day be ruined by a bad hair day, or to feel like the night is doomed because nothing in their closet looks decent on them. They will look in the mirror and obsess over the size of their pores, or that one wrinkle between their brows. They will avoid shorts because of the vein behind a knee, and wear long sleeves in 90 degree weather because they are self conscious about their arms. They will give others credit for being fashionable, and glamorous, when they give themselves no credit at all. "Oh, I can't do that", "I could never wear that", "I don't know how to wear makeup". Beauty is so much more than a haircut, or a skin care product, or a lipstick color. It really has very little to do with what you use, or how you use it. Beauty comes from inside, and radiates outward. I am not trying to be cliche here, I am being literal. If you feel beautiful, if you are kind, if you love others, you will look in the mirror and see yourself as you are, not as a sum of tiny details like pore size, eyebrows, under eye flaws, etc.... Be bold, in your actions, in your words, in your sense of self. Allow yourself to love the woman you are, the whole package. Love others as you love yourself, and see what happens.
I enter this new week a little tired, but smiling. Why? No drama this weekend. We had sunshine, and sports, and cuddle time--- less the drama. Most families don't experience the intense level of emotions that the Rhodes clan does. Sure, they have the hectic life of families, perhaps some fighting, the normal mess--- perhaps a little teen hormone induced drama....but we have drama of a different kind in our house. The kind of drama caused by a brain that is shooting off crazy chemicals induced by years of trauma. When our son Victor is home, the whole world is a great big land mine. Saying the wrong thing, calling him out on behavior, or even suggesting that he not eat a 4th serving of ice cream can cause the the peace to recede, and for chaos to ensue. He is now in a boarding school for kids with emotional issues. As sad as it is that our family isn't all together--- I must admit that the peace in our household is a welcome blessing. We are learning more and more
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